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  • 4: House Arrest and Daydreams

    4: House Arrest and Daydreams


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    “God had to be first – no compromise, family had to be second.”

    This is how my father describes his life’s priorities in the “Ting an’ Ting” documentary. Now, this is not an unusual stand in a religious society like the Bahamas, but what does it mean to be a Jehovah’s Witness with “no compromises”? When the main thing in your life is devotion to a cult what follows from that? 

    This is not the position of every Jehovah’s Witness, mind you. There are Witnesses who maintain relationships with disfellowshipped children and grandchildren. There are those who just live their lives; knock on some doors every other week and do just enough to maintain their standing. But these aren’t the role models, they aren’t the people who are celebrated at Witness conventions.

    Witnesses can’t force all of their members to have the same level of fanaticism. Those that don’t display the right amount of zeal forfeit any hope of advancement. For example, you can’t be an Elder if your house isn’t kept in order. Until I “took a tangent,” to borrow his phrase, my father’s house was very much in order. 

    1.

    To understand the Minnis family is to know that because they want to be good Jehovah’s Witnesses they have placed themselves under house arrest. It’s hard enough to be a regular cult member but to be a good one requires so much more.

    This means that many of the decisions in their lives are made for them. From the very basic and trivial, like how they spend their time, to larger concerns, like whether or not to go to University, to have children or whether or not they can have a blood transfusion. You can see the impact of this core decision expressed over and over again in almost every aspect of their lives.

    Because they want to be good Jehovah’s Witnesses they have placed themselves under house arrest.

    Take higher education for example. When I finished high school in Eleuthera I didn’t even bother to apply to a college. I wanted to put Jehovah first just like everyone else before me had done and therefore didn’t see the point. I was going to be a “Pioneer” minister. I didn’t even know how I was going to make a living. Paint, I guess? 

    The Watchtower does not flat out say “Thou must not go to University.” What it does instead is call it a “personal decision” then not-so-gently tell you what to do anyway. Witness literature portrays Colleges and Universities as the home of Satanic philosophy. Since the end-of-all-things is so near, their argument goes, do you want to spend the short time left getting a degree in Satan’s home or earn God’s favour by knocking on doors? The “decision” is left up to the individual but if they want to be a good Witness the choice is clear.

    If a Witness does decide to go, as I later did, they are judged for that choice and are labelled as not being  ‘spiritual’ enough. While I was a member I couldn’t shake the guilt I felt for going to COB. Of course, my later turn away from the religion was chalked up as proof that Watchtower was right all along. 

    My sisters had the same mindset when they graduated high school. They both excelled academically, especially Shan, who got a remarkable eight A’s in her GCE O levels. Despite the obvious talent, they did not pursue any form of higher education. If memory serves, Shan actually applied and got accepted to numerous Universities, only to turn them all down.

    The end of the world was apparently so near when they finished high school in the late 80s that there was no time to get degrees. They were applauded at the Kingdom Hall for making the best choice by giving Jehovah their youth.

    Fast forward to now, nearly forty years later, the imminent nearness of Armageddon was still being used to scare others into the same dead-end choices up until very recently. On August 22nd the Witnesses suddenly reversed their decades long stance on ‘additional education’ – and have now made it ok for their members to pursue it if they so choose.

    In making this radical U-turn, they didn’t apologize for their failed predictions or for the consequences their policies have had on millions of people. They won’t be made accountable for all the potential that they have wasted. In the end, it’s people like Nicole and Shan who are left holding the bag.

    2.

    Witness teachings like the Paradise Earth are deeply embedded in the family’s art. Paradise is the hope that the majority of members believe in and cling to; that after Armageddon they will get to live forever on Earth without sickness and death.

    For example, when my father began his art practice, his landscape paintings would capture the complete view of a scene almost like an historian. However over time, as Amanda Coulson observes, he “began to deliberately excise objects of human intervention – cars, telephone poles, even the people themselves.”

    This practice of removing traces of modern life from his paintings actually mirrors Witness images of paradise that also don’t include modern objects. Images in the Watchtower that do include things like telephone poles and street lights are horrific scenes from their imagined Armageddon.

    “Objects of human intervention”, are therefore used as a kind of visual shorthand to show an image’s place in the Witness’ end-of-the-world timeline. Apparently, there will be no street lights in Paradise.  

    That my father, a long time Witness, also began to remove these types of objects from his work isn’t surprising. He is giving you a preview of what God will supposedly soon do Himself. I believe this practice is more a sign of conformity to Witness teaching than probably even conscious choice. Because of this I would argue that my father’s art has become not “a plea to revere the earth and live in harmony with it” as Coulson says, but rather a fantasy of what Paradise will look like when we, the heathens, are all gone. 

    The parallels between my sisters’ art and Witness imagery found in the Watchtower is also striking. Their art has numerous examples of labourers either engaged in farming, yard maintenance or household chores but as with the Watchtower examples, always without any modern tools. They also incorporate Witness compositions of the endless delights of Paradise in their work. Or on the other hand, they also portray people looking longingly towards Paradise from the despair of this current reality.

    With very few exceptions it is possible to insert any of my family’s paintings directly into a Witness publication without modification, as if the family has been working on a Bahamian edition of the Watchtower magazine, consciously or not, for their entire careers.

    I don’t think these connections are coincidence because these are the images that my family has been consuming for decades and that my sisters and I were literally raised on. 

    Interestingly enough, Nicole has actually worked for years in the Watchtower art department in New York and has likely produced a few anonymous masterpieces for them — anonymous because all the work published by the Watchtower goes unattributed to enhance the illusion that it comes from divine sources.

    3.

    The family has come under criticism in recent years as their work has grown increasingly out of step with contemporary Bahamian art practice. In the Director’s Cut my father addresses this criticism by saying that “some people call what we do chocolate box cover art.” According to Coulson, some also describe their work as “mere decoration.”

    Is Minnis family art like this though because of the demands of the marketplace or because their religion doesn’t allow them to be anything else?

    As the example of my life shows, Jehovah’s Witnesses discourage freedom of thought, and anything a Witness does or creates that could be seen as being “worldly” or against Watchtower doctrine could lead to punishment.

    While there’s definite market pressure to produce work that is safe for the majority of buyers, I believe fear of going against Witness rules also plays a large part in defining their art’s content. This dual pressure leaves little room for experimentation, play or growth — many of the very things that we expect out of artists but are, for the most part, absent in their work.

    The impact of this religious pressure from the Witnesses and how this affects their art is probably best seen in the example of my father’s Pot Luck cartoons. For ten years from 1971 he was the leading commentator on Bahamian politics with his immensely popular editorial cartoons. Even though this was something he had started before he converted, his practice gradually came into conflict with evolving Witness teachings on the matter.

    Witnesses discourage members from expressing or even having an opinion on politics and this stand became more hard-line in the late 1970s. I have heard a few stories about this, but they are all some version of him having to make a choice between his faith and Pot Luck. In the end, he chose to be a good Witness and abruptly ended his influential creation.

    Witness rules on politics also extended to his music and he soon ended his satirical work there too.

    While his albums were never fully political, songs like “People to People” — a sharp skewering of the Ministry of Tourism’s 1975 program of the same name – and  “Show & Tell” – a blow-by-blow account of shenanigans surrounding the 1976 Public Disclosure Act — were political and satirical standouts, not to mention big hits. This type of material vanished from his music around the same time that he cancelled Pot Luck.

    Island Life,” released in 1979, is probably the last serious Eddie Minnis satirical album. It had songs like “Granny Flyin’” – that skewered The Bahamas’ role in the drug trade and “Nassau People” – a pointed commentary on crime. On the album cover Fleabs is seen trying to pull in a box of “Columbia Gold.”

    In retrospect, it appears that his cartooning helped fuel many of the sharp insights, both political and social, that he then brought to his music. Once Pot Luck ended in 1981, the music was left anchor-less, and began to drift in a more judgmental and preachy direction.

    A good example of the difference between his Pot Luck era work and his more recent output is the lone new song that he recorded for his first Greatest Hits album released in 1996 entitled “Reap What You Sow.” On an album filled with political and satirical classics like ‘Nassau People’, ‘Show & Tell‘ and ‘People to People’ this new song featured lines like: 

    “Listen to what the Bible say / It say if you plant it / it will grow. / And you will reap what you sow. / If you don’t want to ruin your life / Remember sex was made for husband and wife.” 

    It wasn’t a hit. 

    On a certain level, of course, the song was also social commentary, but most, if not all, of the humour, compassion and most importantly, relevance, were gone.

    4.

    There’s a clip in “Ting an’ Ting” where I claim that my father could have done “more”, after which I receive an immediate narrative rebuke as the film cuts to Fred Sturrup saying that “To think about Eddie giving more would be selfish.”

    Am I being selfish though? I understand that I have a perspective on this topic that’s not widely shared, but my point of view is deeply grounded in my own experience. 

    I know that being a good Witness put a cap on the art that I was able to produce. Simply put, what I created as I was leaving the religion wouldn’t have been possible if I had remained. By leaving the Witnesses I was able to explore my feelings without fear of offending an Elder or going against their theology.

    What I created as I was freeing myself from the religion would not have been possible had I remained a Witness

    For example, when I sent a draft of my play “The Cabinet” for my mother to read, I had forgotten that Witnesses don’t believe in an immortal soul and see any depiction of a ghost as something satanic. She was so offended by the ghost that was a central character in the play that I don’t even know if she finished reading it.

    In this light, my father’s career can be best understood if we divided it in two. He began as a Bahamian trailblazer. His early years were full of national firsts like his cartooning, bold strokes like his painting on the side of the road and showed clear ambition. It seemed that he was always looking to do something new and fresh and from everything I have heard he was a carefree and fun-loving person. This joy of life could be seen in his early work and in the energy he put into the Bahamian art scene. 

    The second phase of his career came after he joined the Witnesses and became more and more religious, perhaps fully manifesting in 1981 with the cancellation of Pot Luck. Following the Witness mandate to be “no part of this world” there was a narrowing of his social focus and a closing of his world view. All his energy was then put into his evangelizing and in the little time that he had left he stuck to the well-worn paths he had already cleared. His palette knife technique got tighter, the music became less relevant and Pot Luck disappeared. 

    As for my sisters, they have been locked into their styles and subject matter since the beginning of their careers and their art has always been more about making a living than self-expression. 

    So what I’m thinking about when I say that my father, and by extension my sisters, could do “more” is an admittedly imaginary world where they are free from their Witness lockdown. 

    If they were just freed from the enormous time commitments of the Witness lifestyle they could create more art — quantity, but I believe that if they also dropped the Witness outlook on the world, their art would be of a far different quality.

    You can call me selfish for having this dream, but this is the Minnis art I wish I could see. 

    5.

    It’s impossible to calculate the total price my family has paid to be good Jehovah’s Witnesses. I know the cost to me and my life has been astronomically high.

    It’s an interesting yet frustrating thought experiment to imagine what we as a family could have been had we not been Witnesses or at least, not taken it so seriously. 

    Despite their choices, my father is still recognized as a Bahamian icon and legend and my sisters have cemented their place in the local arts; such is the power of their talent. Perhaps in the end, to a young nation in need of artists and heroes, it doesn’t matter. We have what we have and we should be grateful. 

    On the other hand, I am always left with the sorrow of what could have been and what we will never get to witness.  


    Coming up next: Follow me as I uncover what happens when silence, religion, and respectability politics combine. Bust out your tinfoil hats for a full-blown "Bahamian Conspiracy Theory."  
  • Change of Plan

    Caterpillars ugly but they die pretty.
    God know why he make them so.
    He told me the reason.
    I forget what he said.

    I love with most of my heart
    God says always keep a little for yourself.
    Now I know why.
    Seen my tombstone.
    Ones with the rest of my heart showed me.
    Real nice of them.
    I want to postpone the funeral
    to count my blessings.
    Can’t wait they say
    Program done printed.
    Killer obituary.
    Family flying in to pay respects.

    Meta-morph-a-what-ever.
    Caterpillars can, so why can’t I?
    Ask God. It ain’t my time.
    Rebirth resembles Death.
    Or precedes it.
    Can't do one without the other.
    Reconnect to life to live again.
    Reset the breaker,
    plug in the stove,
    make some tea.

    Get in the coffin they say.
    We gone eulogize you.
    Talk about how lousy you was
    Why we glad you gone.
    How we miss you already.
    You was a good man still
    Now you gone burn in heaven.

    Straight jacket too damn tight.
    Expectations strangling.
    Break free.
    Just like drowning.
    Forget which way is up.
    Yet. I always know
    Come up for air.
    Breathe!
    Feeling free and falling relentlessly.
    Giddy from the motion of standing still.
    Memories swirl and dance on the horizon,
    Turn into smoke.
    Sail away into the distance
    over the edge of the earth.
    The dirty cocoon drops.

    You changed they tell me.
    If you better now, how come I can’t see it.
    Let the wings dry, jackass.
    Flying ain’t easy.
    Those who stay on the ground always think it is.
    They imagine you don’t have a care in the world.
    God know that’s a lie.
    Big ugly lie.

    Casket still there.
    Gone use it someday.
    Just not now.
    Got too much flying to do.

  • 3: My life as a Ghost

    3: My life as a Ghost


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    The thing I remember most about leaving the Jehovah’s Witnesses was how much time it felt that I had.

    By removing all of their events, readings and busy-ness from my schedule it was as if I had uncovered a whole other life. When my dad – Eddie Minnis – and my sisters Nicole and Shan say in the “Ting an’ Ting” documentary that they spend most of their time in the Witnessing work, they’re not joking. Being an active Jehovah’s Witness is like having a full-time job on top of your full-time job. And one where the boss expects you to put in more and more overtime.

    With all of that time available to me I threw myself into my studies at the College of the Bahamas. This is the period I was referring to in the documentary when I said that I “locked myself in a room and just painted.” The room in question was the second floor of COB’s S-Block where I was doing an associate’s degree in Art with an unofficial minor in English with classmates and colleagues like Jace McKinney, Lavar Munroe and Jackson Petit

    I was twenty-five and I was a newborn. Everything was fresh, foreign and strange. I got to celebrate my birthday and Christmas for the first time. Went to Junkanoo. Dated non-Witness women. I joined Track Road Theatre where amongst other lessons I learned to curse.

    What I was learning though were things that most people had learned when they were in their early teens or never had to learn at all.

    Reminders of my past life still haunted me. Nassau is a small place and I kept running into former friends, or as I was trained to call them, “brothers”, who would no longer look me in the eye or speak to me. Each encounter was like sandpaper on my soul.

    Not only was I now disfellowshipped but because I had stopped believing and could back up my non-belief, I had earned another label: “Apostate”. For Witnesses, apostates are described as stand-ins for the Devil himself. While they practice shunning of former members, they practically run away from apostates. It was like they all owed me money.  

    1.

    When my doubts about Witness teachings really began to show, my family staged an intervention. My parents invited me to Eleuthera for a few days to talk about things. They did everything but burn sage in the house. They sympathized, shared some of their own nagging doubts. My father even said that he had come to similar conclusions as I had about certain Witness doctrines.

    They sent me to visit a family friend in Rock Sound who was also an Elder. They hoped that maybe he could get through to me. After a day of trying he threw up his hands and said that this was my artistic nature coming out and there was nothing he could do. 

    At this point it was obvious that I wasn’t long for the faith. The Witnesses wouldn’t, couldn’t just let me be. The Elders would come as inevitably as the Terminators and I would be thrown out. This was when my sisters cried over me, when my family begged me to shut my mouth and just fade. 

    It felt like I was attending my own funeral. 

    The Witnesses wouldn’t, couldn’t just let me be. The Elders would come as inevitably as the Terminators and I would be thrown out.

    As expected and as the Watchtower instructed, once the inevitable announcement came for me, it was as if I was suddenly dead to them. 

    My sisters have seen me walking on the road in Nassau and pressed gas.

    My parents stopped supporting me through my studies at COB and left my maternal Aunt and Uncle to pick up that financial slack.

    None of them came to see my play “The Cabinet” when it was on at the Dundas or the old Shirley Street Theatre. 

    None of them came to my wedding. 

    None of them visited when any of my three children were born.

    2.

    While my sisters have essentially cut me off, to say that my parents don’t talk to me is not entirely true. It’s a bit more complicated than that.

    What communication we do have is strained. For example, I call my parents every year on their wedding anniversary, it’s one of the few things Witnesses are allowed to commemorate, and sometimes that has been our only contact for the year. If there is a life event, like an accident or a hospital visit, I get a call from them to let me know about it. If I start calling too frequently then I am told to stop.

    When we do talk, the conversation is cordial, as if there is nothing wrong – as long as we stick to generalities and avoid any touchy subjects. 

    My three children – their only grandchildren – are a bone of contention. My parents have told me that the reason they don’t have a relationship with them is because of me. Apparently I need to let them all interact without my apostate self getting in the way. In other words, I need to give them my kids then leave the room.

    Now, I know the Witness playbook too well to fall for that one. I don’t want my kids to get even a whiff of indoctrination so my response to that suggestion has always been a definitive “hell, no.” 

    A few years ago my mother accepted my terms and started calling the kids with me in earshot. While my father hardly ever joined in, she called about every week for almost a year and then just suddenly stopped. We later learned that since I was involved, even in such a limited role, Witness guilt had gotten the better of her. She didn’t feel that she was being faithful to Jehovah. 

    3.

    In August of 2024 I brought my tribe with me to visit Nassau and Eleuthera. I wanted my then nine and six year old girls to get a chance to see their roots since they were now old enough to remember things. I was beyond shocked when my parents – and my sisters – said that they wanted to meet us. I was even more surprised when they showed up in broad daylight and came inside.

    These were all unprecedented actions. For Nicole that was the absolute first time that she had ever seen or talked to my wife or any of my children and for Shan it wasn’t that much better.

    The whole thing was as awkward as you could imagine. 

    I asked them if there was some Witness rule change that would allow them to meet and visit with us and with me, an apostate. They didn’t answer. I pressed further and my father said that they had made an “exception”. 

    It took me a while but I now think I know what that “exception” was all about. There is this Witness bylaw that they call “Theocratic Warfare.” It allows them to lie, deceive and bend the rules just a bit, or even talk to an apostate, if doing so would make their religion look better to outsiders. 

    The business they were likely after was removing a title card from “Ting an’ Ting” that said my kids don’t know their aunts or grandparents. So having met my children, ever so briefly, the text was removed as being inaccurate and then things promptly went back to being the way they were before. Silence from the sisters and my father, and the every-so-often calls from my mother.

    I was suckered. 

    While the few “exceptions” exhaust and annoy me, they do seem to confuse my extended non-Witness family. Mission accomplished, I guess.

    It’s led some of them to believe that maybe the thing blocking a reunion with my parents and sisters is me. While this might be true now, this was not always the case. I had long hoped that my family would find in themselves the power to break free from the Watchtower’s grasp and join me on the outside.

    This hope also goes in the other direction. In the Director’s Cut my sister Shan says that “the door is not shut [for me].” She continued, “Where there is life there is always hope and we’re always hoping for the best.” The “best” that she is referring to, and the only way that I can be a part of the family again, is for me to repent for the crime of having thoughts of my own and return to the Witnesses. 

    For over two decades then my family and I have stood on opposite sides of a ravine. Each side hoping for the other to switch. 

    I now believe that our separate and opposite hopes are delusional. 

    It’s time we all moved on. 


    Coming up next: "House Arrest and Daydreams" — I count the hidden cost of life under Jehovah’s Witness authority... and the price my family continues to pay.
  • Chasm

  • Dinghy to Hell

    The moon’s reflection echoes 
    dark in the stillness
    as a choir of mosquito wings
    hum a woeful dirge.
    Three parts blood, two parts water
    the river is as still as ink.
    A cold wind puckers and blows
    making the surface shiver
    and a ripple rises
    like goose flesh.

    Burlap hooded and black as the night
    the ferryman poles this dinghy
    down the Styx on capricious tides.
    I, his lone fare.
    As the wind blows
    he points a bony finger at the bow.
    I turn to see and stare.
    He grins
    gleeful to show the eternal fires
    awaiting my flesh for fuel
    and drawing so so near.
    His advice: that I contemplate
    my life of sin,
    and ponder the fate of those who never learn.
    “Why?”
    I smile back with narrow eyes,
    “My soul is anxious to burn.”
  • Foregone Conclusion

    Part One

    The inquisition is here;
    the firing squad
    with the loaded guns.
    Gunfight at the corral.
    But it ain’t OK.
    Six a them to me one.
    This ain’t a fair fight.
    I need Jesus
    and a miracle.

    Remember the Alamo
    and the bitches of Salem.
    Same in difference.
    These hired guns tracked me down.
    Big reward for my head.
    Dead or alive.
    Depending if you believe the posters
    or the gossip.

    These hombres was my brothers.
    Now I stare back at ‘em.
    They don’t remember me.
    How we used to sit
    round mama’s table and talk trivia.
    Then they said they loved me.
    Money makes men feign amnesia
    and tell you they can help.

    Part Two

    The sun goes behind a cloud.
    High noon.
    The moment of truth.
    Before the first sweat bead drops
    I fill the bastards with lead.
    Heavy shit.
    They stagger back.
    I see the blank look in they eye.

    In all of them guns
    they only ever had one bullet.
    A silver one.
    Big hole in my chest now
    sucking on my blood.
    Hole was there before
    the first shot went off.
    Foregone conclusion.
    They don’t have to be right
    to kill me dead.

  • Regarding the Poetry


    Leaving the Jehovah’s Witness religion was a very intense period for me. There was such a potent cocktail of conflicting emotions coursing through my soul: betrayal and guilt, happiness and sorrow, and feeling everything at once and all the time.

    During this period I wrote a lot of poetry as an outlet and a way to cope with the stress. It felt to me that poetry was the only thing that came out whenever I tried to write. It was my self-help and comfort.

    For inclusion in this project I have selected ten poems that I wrote between 2003 and 2009. This period coincides with my awakening while within the Witnesses, my journey out of the religion and the immediate aftermath. Some of these pieces have been previously published, but here alongside the seven skeletons they are now, for the first time, presented in the context in which they were written. I feel that this contextual shift makes them all hit different. 

    I have, for the most part, resisted the urge to change them. I will admit though that there have been some light edits, mainly changing line breaks and enhancing readability. 

    From now until the end of this project I will provide a poem or two that fits alongside the week’s essay.

    As I try to explain in the essays, on an intellectual level, what it meant for me to leave a cult like the Jehovah’s Witnesses, hopefully these poems provide some insight into what that felt like. 

  • 2: Using the ‘C’ word Responsibly

    2: Using the ‘C’ word Responsibly


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    I’m not calling Jehovah’s Witnesses a cult for the shock value. It’s just that the popular idea of what a cult is, and a huge chunk of the negative vibes that come along with that, is the best way to describe them. 

    I could go about proving they’re a cult a bunch of different ways. I could go the academic route and talk about the BITE model and discuss high-control religions who like to make end-of-the-world prophecies. I could discuss totalitarianism and how that manifests in religious structures. I could cite experts and other former members and really get into the nitty gritty and get all technical and jargony. But I won’t do any of that. 

    I’m just going to tell you what happened to me.

    1.

    The life of a Jehovah’s Witness begins only after they get baptized. In the “Ting an’ Ting” documentary, my sister Nicole says that she got baptized when she was 15. Totally her decision, she says.

    I got baptized when I was twelve.

    Photo from the day I was baptized. My father is on the right, I’m in the middle. I can’t remember who the man on the left is, but he probably gave the ‘Baptismal talk’.

    This is a big deal because before you get baptized, you’re not a real Jehovah’s Witness. You’re not even a member. You’re just affiliated. 

    For one thing, baptism makes you eligible for a lot of Witness perks. For example, my sisters could become what they call “Pioneers” — back then that was someone who put in a thousand hours a year evangelizing — and eventually I did that too.

    As a male though, I had access to more perks than they did. I got to carry the microphone in the Witness meetings, play the songs from the cassettes to start and end the services. I was even able to say prayers. Eventually, I took fuller advantage of all that maleness and became a “Ministerial Servant,” which was a crucial step up the ladder with the next rung being Elder.   

    What I didn’t think about at the time — and how could I, since I was only twelve —was that getting baptized also gave the Witnesses the power to kick me out. 

    Getting kicked out of the Witness religion was calleddisfellowshipping”. It happens via an announcement made near the end of one of their meetings. A somber looking man would go up to the podium and say “so-and-so has been disfellowshipped” and just take all the air out of the room.

    That phrase, as simple as it sounds, has crazy power. I remember a time when I was talking and laughing with someone before a meeting started – then that announcement happened for them – and when the meeting was finished I wouldn’t talk to them again. In fact, no one would. We all barely even made eye contact. 

    The not-talking part continued outside the Kingdom Hall too. Word would spread fast to all the Witnesses in Nassau and the disfellowshipped person would go from having a whole bunch of Witness friends to none at all. 

    Jehovah’s Witnesses practice shunning of former members, and disfellowshipping makes someone a former member. Witness teachings even tell parents, and siblings not to talk to their disfellowshipped family member. It’s as if the announcement killed the person on the spot. If the person grovels to the Elders — and grovels for at least a year — they may be let back into the flock but that reunion comes only after they had walked in the wilderness alone for, what to them, would have felt like an eternity. 

    2. 

    The most popular reason why people get disfellowshipped is probably for sex. Having an affair with the wrong person, like an unbeliever, or someone you’re not married to, or both. Being gay. You can even get disfellowshipped for smoking. 

    I got disfellowshipped because I stopped believing. 

    Before my crisis of conscience, I was one of the Witness’ rising stars. My dream was to go off to one of their missionary schools for single men. I was so serious I took a month off work with no pay to go convert people on another island. I was such a true true believer that at one point I didn’t think my dad was Witness enough. 

    Because I pushed the limits though, I started to see the gaps. The Watchtower said that if I did everything they told me to that I would be happy. I found out two things: it wasn’t humanly possible to do everything they demanded and no matter how much I did, I was never any happier. In fact, it was usually the opposite. The more I did the more useless and miserable I felt. I found out that the “truth” was the furthest thing from that and I reached for the exit.

    I knew though that leaving would mean death for me. I knew that once they read that announcement I would be cut off from friends, family; my parents, my sisters. I knew that I might never talk to any of them again and I would lose the only life that I had ever known. 

    Many Witnesses come to the same conclusions that I did but not everyone is prepared to make that total sacrifice. A lot of people just fade. They quiet quit. They knock on less doors. They lead a double life. I’ve talked to a few of these people over the years – they reach out in secret as if we live in Cold War era Russia and they’re avoiding the KGB. As long as they don’t get caught, the theory goes, they get to keep their family and friends and don’t become total outcasts. And believe me, in the Witness world, the Elders are the KGB.

    I knew that leaving would mean death for me. I knew that once they read that announcement I would be cut off from friends, family; my parents, my sisters.

    I never had the ability to lead a double life though, I’m just not cut out for that. It was always all-or-nothing for me. So when the elders came looking for me I was ready. There was one time I had five of them to me one and I shot them down with their own Bible. That’s when they knew I was dangerous. That’s when they knew they had to get rid of me.

    When I was finished standing up to them I went home, sat down, and cried.

    I knew what was going to happen to me in theory, but I had no idea what it was really going to be like. The announcement was coming, but it was coming for me this time.

    Once it came, I knew that in a very real sense, I would be no more. 

    3.

    I had to go down this road to find the absolute truth about what Jehovah’s Witnesses believe. And it has nothing to do with the Bible or morality or even God. When you boil it all down, Jehovah’s Witnesses have to believe whatever is currently printed in the Watchtower magazine. 

    If the Watchtower tells my dad, my mother, my sisters not to speak or have anything to do with their son, their brother who is disfellowshipped, then by damn, that is what they are going to do. 

    Now, tell me that ain’t a cult.


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    Coming up next:My Life as a Ghost” — Leaving the Witnesses brings heavy, heavy consequences ... and a whole new life. I’ll discuss my journey and where my family and I are at after 20 years of shunning.

  • Look at This Mess!

  • Regarding the Painting

    Painting is just another way of keeping a diary.
    Pablo Picasso


    It’s been 12 years since I finished a painting. 

    When you haven’t done something you love for that long there have to be strategies that you use to keep it that way. For me, these strategies existed in the form of excuses. 

    My favourite excuse is that painting requires so much more space than my writing. There is truth in this on multiple levels of what you would even call ‘space’. 

    When I’m talking about space in terms of time, I find that can block off an hour for writing and get something done, while an hour is hardly enough time for me to even set up for a painting session. Working full-time and having kids makes it so that my time is at a premium and I have told myself that the afternoon I would need for a painting session just isn’t logistically possible.  

    Complaining about set up time would also lead me to another definition of ‘space.’ Everything in the apartments and homes where I have lived has, of necessity, been multipurpose. I don’t have a studio and therefore don’t have a dedicated space to work.

    Beyond the chore of setting up some corner of my home for a painting session I would then bemoan the lack of distance I was able to get from the canvas. In the classrooms of the College of the Bahamas (COB) where I really fell into my work, most of the time I spent painting was actually spent a few meters away, on the other end of the room, just staring at what I had done, trying to intuit what I needed to do next. 

    But likely the space that I really needed was mental. My art practice carries so much family baggage that once I lost momentum each paintbrush began to weigh a thousand pounds. In the end the internal voices and self-sabotage were too much.

    And so a decade passed by. 

    1.

    I have been thinking about a version of this project for a very long time and no matter which way I turned it over in my mind, I felt that to make the kind of statement that I wanted, that the subject matter demanded, I had to have a painting component to go along with it. It was the only way. 

    The old excuses were still there, but this time, out of desperation, I tried something new. Following the lead of a good friend I went digital. 

    Using digital tools eliminated a lot of my excuses about space. I no longer needed set up or even to clean up afterwards. My canvas was the same screen I peered into daily. 

    With those obstacles cleared I made time in my schedule and found that I was able to make notable progress on a piece in the same time constraints that I had with writing. 

    In terms of mental space – this project was in many ways the thing that stood in my way all along. Looking back now, I believe it was what I needed to get out of my system so I could move on.

    As I worked, I became more free, more animated. The digital paintbrush became lighter as the baggage began to fall away. I began to hear my voice again over all the old background radiation. 

    This is not to say that I am cured, that backsliding into doubt for another ten years isn’t possible. That possibility is always there, lurking. 

    I only know that today I did what needed to be done. 

    2.

    I am committed to have a painting go along with every major post in this limited series. That could either be an earlier work of mine, if it fits with an episode, or a new work that pulls directly from ideas, phrases or themes in the piece.

    The work that I have created for this project is essentially a continuation of visual ideas that I had started when I was studying art at COB in 2003. Back then I exhibited this work at the “Colour of Harmony” show. I called this series “Inner Journey.” Any earlier work that is displayed in this project comes from that series.

    At the Colour of Harmony COB art show 2003 with my family. From left to right Heather Thompson, Eddie Minnis, Ward Minnis, Sherry Minnis and Jeanne Thompson. The Thompsons are not Witnesses.

    At the time, I was still nominally one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, but I was well on my way out. While the series was my way of working through my doubts when it felt as if my world and my head were imploding, it was also a last attempt to show, to explain to my family what I was going through.

    I was hoping that they would see what I was trying to say, but when I asked what they thought of the dark and depressing images I had created, they claimed to see nothing unusual. 

    I still don’t believe them.